Hey Joe, thanks for writing a thoughtful piece on consent from a man’s perspective. I like how you described your perspective changing to embrace ethical dating and honest relationships. Personally I wish you had included ‘before you send images’, as one of the points, because this is something many guys don’t seem to be getting.

Also I was a little confused sometimes with your examples, whether you were referring just to online contact or face to face as well, as sometimes a simple ‘hey, would it be ok if I kiss you? It’s completely ok to say no’, works well when you’re actually on a date. I got the impression you were referring mostly to getting consent ahead of time. Ahead of time is good, but can be awkward if someone changes their mind after meeting you, but you’re banking on a message from the day before. Does that make sense?

Again, thanks for writing this.

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